Time

Always be ready to be caught off guard. Time is bigger than all of us, we’re playing its game, not the other way round. We’re toy figures. We’re part of a cruel game, unable to see through the rules- we are victims. There’s no escape, no save spots, no breaks.

Time passes, people come and people go and while you think you’re in perfect control of your own life, you are no more than another character in the game we call life. See, how often have you been told to move on ? You are not to decide when things change. You have to adapt to whatever time has up its sleeve for you.

There are days when you feel like you’re in control of whatever happens around you, but believe me, its impossible to win a game against its creator. You have the choice to try to challenge time, but you’ll always be the one showing his cards to his enemy. Most often, you try to have more control in your life, but you’ll always only have as much as time wants you to.

Yet, it’s better to play by the rule of someone else than not play at all. Accepting the fact that we can’t make time go faster or slow it down is the best we can do, we always have the choice to decide between giving up right from the start and trying our best to live our life to the fullest, while we can. One day we’ll only be a memory and a later day we’ll only be a shadow of a thought, until one day, it will be as though we never lived.

This is why we have to seize the day, be an active part of our life, push ourselves to where we want to be and stop only when we’ve reached our goal or time calls the end of our life. We are not to decide how long we will live, but we’re free to make the most of it as long as we possibly can.

Possibly, time does not even want to be our enemy, it might only take the responsibility of pushing us into other directions, we might feel betrayed but at the end of the day, it’ll make sense only when you will be looking back and understand why some thing had to happen while others didn’t.

Time is bigger than all of us. It’s David against Goliath.

Invent yourself,CK

 


 

Time is a great teacher, but unfortunately it kills all its pupils. -Hector Louis Berlioz

Sunsets

When was the last time you watched the sunset without taking out your phone to take pictures? Why do we think that it is more important to show other people what we see than enjoying the happy moments of life?  When did you last see something that gave you the shivers? When were you last astonished by something you saw?

I think we have lost vision for the beautiful things of life.  There seems to be nothing left that leaves us stunned. We take pictures of moments and move on. We have forgotten how to enjoy. You’ll say you can still enjoy sunsets, sunrises, rainbows- whatever Nature provides us with -before or after taking pictures, but why has it become more important to save a moment than to treasure it?
We live in a time in which it is more important to show people that our life is great than actually trying to make the best of our life.

Instagram photos, Facebook profile pictures and  Snapchat stories have become a tool to show off the great life we pretend to live. We want people to think that we’re having fun all the time, that we don’t have to worry – that we live the life they want to live.

But the truth is that no one actually lives the life they pretend to live. We hide behind a mask on social media because we’d love to believe that what we show other people of ourselves is who we really are, yet we know that we can only pretend to believe it, knowing deep down that it’s not true. Ironically, we still believe that other people do actually live the life they show us, waking our need to pretend we live an even better life.

Once we realize that social media is not a representation of our real lives, but only a dream world we pretend to live in, we’ll no longer feel the need to pretend living a perfect life, because such a thing as a perfect life does not exist.

We’re actors in our lives, pretendin’ to be who we want people to think we are. -Simone Elkeles

Invent yourself,CK

We’re the drunk generation

No, we’re not the first generation to drink alcohol, nor will we be the last, but I believe that you can’t deny that we incarnate being drunk and have brought it to another level, for we do not only need it for the sole purpose of having fun anymore. We’re in desperate need for it. Why? Because deep down we need social contact, we need love, yet giving love is something we’ve unlearnt somewhere on our way.

The only time we are accessible- and can spread this social love, is when we forget about looking good, when we don’t care what other people think anymore. In times of social pressure and beauty ideals we feel we have to live up to, alcohol seems to be the only solution to enjoy ourselves.

We drink on every occasion; On birthdays, on days that are not our birthdays, when we’re happy, when we’re sad, when we party, when we mourn. There’s no time when alcohol wouldn’t be appropriate. It has become a fundamental part of our all lives.

Being able to say we were drunk, allows us to do all the things we want to do, but don’t have the guts to when we’re sober, afraid of not being accepted anymore, of being laughed at. When we’re drunk, we like to talk to people we don’t know and I think this is something we all should do more often, not when we’re drunk, necessarily. Flirting becomes really easy, because it is a natural thing to do.

To all people saying ‘You don’t need alcohol to have fun’ -Yes you’re completely right, but I need alcohol to free myself from worries and self-awareness, to accept my flaws and openly admit that I seek social contact and love. It is sad that we seem to achieve this state only with the help of a drug, (because that’s what alcohol is in the end), but that’s the way our generation works.

To say alcohol does no good is wrong. To say it does no harm is wrong. But I’d rather be liberated from my insecurities and harm my body, than be healthy and enchained for all my life.

Invent yourself,CK

Summer

Summer’s finally coming. Since this is basically the best time of the year, I hope you do everything to enjoy every moment of it. Summer is no time to worry, it’s all about realizing the plans you’ve had for months, about making memories that count.

Time’s too precious and too transient to waste it. Spend time with the people you love and let go of those who don’t make your days any better . Let go of all people that try to get you down. Stop chasing people’s attention. No one except yourself should be able to decide about how to feel and how you should live in general,.No one should be able to prevent you from being happy and enjoying your life.

This summer can be your summer. Make it the best time of your life. One last time you should remind yourself of the hard times you had to go through to get to this point, then let go of them. Even if you’re going through a difficult stage right now, remind yourself of all the promises you made yourself, that you would enjoy summer no matter what. Don’t get lost in worries and sadness. There are a lot of days you can fill with happiness until daily grind will take place again. Make your days count, profit from that time of the year when you don’t have to worry about school. You’re free to do whatever you wish for.

Take risks, don’t be afraid of being rejected, because you might miss out on something great. Sometimes “all or nothing” is the best slogan and summer is that time. It’s better to take risks and fail than not to take them at all. Get out of your comfort zone. That’s not where memories are made. They are created when you leave that zone and jump in at the deep end.

Positivity is key. Do something new, take risks, have fun, that’s all that matters.

Invent yourself,CK


The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters.         – Audrey Hepburn

Happiness

Do you ever feel like you’re missing out on something? Some days, life seems to be standing still while running past us at the same time. We’re waiting for that day when everything will turn out great and we’ll  be happy. But having waited for that moment myself for quite some time, I’ve realized that we’re responsible for our own happiness. If you want something, go get it, it’s not going to come to you.

I don’t want to be one of these people who regret not having put enough effort into what they wanted when they were young. We are still young, we’ve still got the chance to turn our life into the life we want. We have to chase it with all we’ve got or we’ll end up unhappy. Now’s the moment to get what we want.

As we’re getting older, there are more and more responsibilities coming towards us, obstacles we have to overcome, problems we have to solve. Yet these are not supposed to stop us, that’s the universe’s way of testing our faith in ourselves and dreams. Don’t wait until you’ve reached that point in your life where your biggest dreams have to make space for responsibilities. I’ve said it before and I’m saying it again: life happens now.

Life can be hard, with school keeping us busy everyday and homework following ( I know this sounds like a first world problem and it probably is, I am very aware of the luck we have to be educated in one of the richest countries in Europe,but it’s a human trait to never be satisfied with what we have.) as well as daily tasks to finish, we risk to forget that there is more to life than this. What is our life worth if we don’t chase happiness?

I do not accept that going to bed everyday thinking about having to stand up early or about responsibilities that have to be fulfilled is all there is to life. There’s got to be more. But without a little faith in ourselves and the courage to generate happiness ourselves we’ll end up surviving instead of actually living.  Happiness is somewhere within us and it’s our duty to find it.

Invent yourself, CK

Happiness depends upon ourselves. – Aristotle

Listening or waiting to speak?

A lot of people do not actually listen to what you have to say, they’re just waiting for you to finish so that they can start talking again. Most of the time, they have no intention to react to what you said. They’ll come up with something similar that happened to them. They don’t care about your story and will try to overplay you with their story.

But this is not how a conversation works, if you don’t want to hear what others have to say and only care about yourself, do not start a conversation. It’s really exhausting and frustrating for the other person as they will notice that what they say is of no worth for you and is not taken into account and will just let you speak, hoping that they can flee the conversation as soon as possible. Moreover they’ll probably start to avoid you.

It might take some time, but eventually everyone’s gonna know that talking to you is not something to look forward to and they won’t try to start a conversation. That will be the moment you’ll have to change your point of view about how a conversation works. I had a friend that wouldn’t let me give the chance to react, let alone tell something of my own. Once I realized that she wasn’t interested in what I had to say I swore myself that I wouldn’t spend time with her alone anymore.

I think that the most important thing to keep up a conversation is not having an interesting story on your mind. The most important thing is to listen what the other person has to say and react to it. It’s also the most difficult part of keeping a conversation alive, since we all think our stories are really interesting and everyone wants to hear them.

It might sound really paradoxical because I just said that I didn’t like talking to that friend because she wouldn’t stop speaking, yet I say it is more important to listen than to speak; but there’s a difference between carrying on a conversation and holding a monologue. If I wanted to listen to someone for hours without being able to speak, I’d go and listen to a politician.

A conversation is not a monologue.

Invent yourself,CK

Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply – Stephen R. Covey