nicotine is out

In times of endless possibilities to keep in touch with others, we’ve become more anti-social than ever. We’re slowly becoming a society full of people who live in their phones , rather than using it as a tool. The roles are reversed, phones have started telling their owners what to do. They own people.

The various profiles we created to fake a perfect life, made us so aware of how we’re supposed to present ourselves, to show the best of us in every situation. We’re worried that people will notice that this is not who we are in real life. We’re no longer hiding behind false fronts, we have turned into them.

On the one hand, when we’re in public, we’re looking at our phones, pretending to be really busy, hoping no one looks at us or judges us. As soon as we look up, we see other people avoiding social contact in just the same way, for what?

On the other hand we’re seeking social contact, we’re looking for social interaction. That’s something you can’t find on a phone, yet we replace real, face to face communication with chats. We’re becoming robots, machines, addicted to our phones. While social networks are meant to communicate, we’re losing the ability to actually keep up a real conversation, simply because we’re no longer used to it. An online chat is not an alternative to a real conversation.

We’re bored of reality, we think that we can find real life on the internet and hope to find purpose on our phones, where all we really find are Donald Trump memes. How  do people not realize that phones are keeping them from living? How much more could we do if  we spent this time, looking down at phones, to improve our lives and change the world around us. We’re so keen to find out who we are, who we want to be, yet we waste our time because we’re afraid of real life and would rather be entertained. In my view, exchanging personal growth with entertainment is not too great of a deal.

You’re human, perfection is not an option, accept it. Don’t hide who you are. Put down your phone  and talk to the people you love.

Invent yourself,CK


The more social media we have, the more we think we’re connecting, yet we are really disconnecting from each other. – JR

We’re the drunk generation

No, we’re not the first generation to drink alcohol, nor will we be the last, but I believe that you can’t deny that we incarnate being drunk and have brought it to another level, for we do not only need it for the sole purpose of having fun anymore. We’re in desperate need for it. Why? Because deep down we need social contact, we need love, yet giving love is something we’ve unlearnt somewhere on our way.

The only time we are accessible- and can spread this social love, is when we forget about looking good, when we don’t care what other people think anymore. In times of social pressure and beauty ideals we feel we have to live up to, alcohol seems to be the only solution to enjoy ourselves.

We drink on every occasion; On birthdays, on days that are not our birthdays, when we’re happy, when we’re sad, when we party, when we mourn. There’s no time when alcohol wouldn’t be appropriate. It has become a fundamental part of our all lives.

Being able to say we were drunk, allows us to do all the things we want to do, but don’t have the guts to when we’re sober, afraid of not being accepted anymore, of being laughed at. When we’re drunk, we like to talk to people we don’t know and I think this is something we all should do more often, not when we’re drunk, necessarily. Flirting becomes really easy, because it is a natural thing to do.

To all people saying ‘You don’t need alcohol to have fun’ -Yes you’re completely right, but I need alcohol to free myself from worries and self-awareness, to accept my flaws and openly admit that I seek social contact and love. It is sad that we seem to achieve this state only with the help of a drug, (because that’s what alcohol is in the end), but that’s the way our generation works.

To say alcohol does no good is wrong. To say it does no harm is wrong. But I’d rather be liberated from my insecurities and harm my body, than be healthy and enchained for all my life.

Invent yourself,CK