Choice

(Another 3 months have passed but there’s a lot I have learned living on my own, so you might forgive me for being inactive again.)

Everyone has them. Bad days that make you feel like nothing is worth fighting for, that life is just an infinite repetition of the same boring days. Bad days that make you forget all the good in your life. They cloud your mind, and have you thinking about nothing but the negative stuff you had to endure.

But these days, while they might be horrible live through, seem necessary to me. We need to feel terrible from time to time, to realize how lucky we are. To realize that we have been given a gift that we should cherish much more often than we tend to do. Because that is exactly what we do. We take everything for granted until it’s gone, then mourn about it and feel betrayed by life.

Truth is, we blame life for being heartless and unfair. We try to impose our rules in a game against an opponent who can’t lose. You can’t win a a game against life but you can learn to play by the rules, accept them and make them work in your favor. There is nothing you can do about being taken away things or people you love, you cannot get it back. But you still have a choice. You either choose to regret, live a life full of mourning that will only get worse and put yourself in a vicious circle, because whenever something will be taken away from you, that feeling of having wasted the good times will become stronger.

Or you choose not to deliberately destroy your own life. You come to terms with the transience of everything. You realize that while all the good times have an end, bad times aren’t everlasting either.

There is good in all bad and bad in all good.  Don’t bring yourself down by ignoring the good.

Some days are just bad days, that’s all. You have to experience sadness to know happiness, and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day, that’s just the way it is.     

Invent yourself, CK

 

 

 

Spend time with the right people

There’s nothing better than spending your time with the friends you love and knowing that they will still be your friends in a few years.

Rather than trying to invest your time in all sorts of activities, invest it in the right people. When you’re in good company it doesn’t matter what you do. It’s really irrelevant whether you’re out drinking expensive champagne in one of those fancy overpriced bars or if you’re bumming around at your house drinking Ice Tea.

If you’re simply checking off your to-do list, without taking care of whom you’re checking it off with, you’ll end up regretting it.

However, often we don’t realize that the people we’re spending time with right now, are not people that’ll stay in our life. That does not mean that you can’t have a good time with people who you know won’t be part of your life in 10 years.

As I’m writing this I’m thinking of an American guy that was camping right next to us at Rock-A-Field , whom we had a great time with, knowing very well that we won’t ever see him again (plus he probably died of an alcohol overdose)

Some people are simply not meant to stay in your life. They might just be the universe’s way of making you change your way of thinking on something. Sometimes, we’re not given second chances. Be aware that people are capable of wasting your time, time you won’t get back. Realize that life’s too short to spend it with the wrong people. Not everyone’s supposed to follow you on your path.

It’s not about what you spend your time on; it’s who you spend your time with.

Invent yourself,CK

Be picky with who you invest your time in. Wasted time is worse than wasted money. -Unknown