nicotine is out

In times of endless possibilities to keep in touch with others, we’ve become more anti-social than ever. We’re slowly becoming a society full of people who live in their phones , rather than using it as a tool. The roles are reversed, phones have started telling their owners what to do. They own people.

The various profiles we created to fake a perfect life, made us so aware of how we’re supposed to present ourselves, to show the best of us in every situation. We’re worried that people will notice that this is not who we are in real life. We’re no longer hiding behind false fronts, we have turned into them.

On the one hand, when we’re in public, we’re looking at our phones, pretending to be really busy, hoping no one looks at us or judges us. As soon as we look up, we see other people avoiding social contact in just the same way, for what?

On the other hand we’re seeking social contact, we’re looking for social interaction. That’s something you can’t find on a phone, yet we replace real, face to face communication with chats. We’re becoming robots, machines, addicted to our phones. While social networks are meant to communicate, we’re losing the ability to actually keep up a real conversation, simply because we’re no longer used to it. An online chat is not an alternative to a real conversation.

We’re bored of reality, we think that we can find real life on the internet and hope to find purpose on our phones, where all we really find are Donald Trump memes. How  do people not realize that phones are keeping them from living? How much more could we do if  we spent this time, looking down at phones, to improve our lives and change the world around us. We’re so keen to find out who we are, who we want to be, yet we waste our time because we’re afraid of real life and would rather be entertained. In my view, exchanging personal growth with entertainment is not too great of a deal.

You’re human, perfection is not an option, accept it. Don’t hide who you are. Put down your phone  and talk to the people you love.

Invent yourself,CK


The more social media we have, the more we think we’re connecting, yet we are really disconnecting from each other. – JR

Sunsets

When was the last time you watched the sunset without taking out your phone to take pictures? Why do we think that it is more important to show other people what we see than enjoying the happy moments of life?  When did you last see something that gave you the shivers? When were you last astonished by something you saw?

I think we have lost vision for the beautiful things of life.  There seems to be nothing left that leaves us stunned. We take pictures of moments and move on. We have forgotten how to enjoy. You’ll say you can still enjoy sunsets, sunrises, rainbows- whatever Nature provides us with -before or after taking pictures, but why has it become more important to save a moment than to treasure it?
We live in a time in which it is more important to show people that our life is great than actually trying to make the best of our life.

Instagram photos, Facebook profile pictures and  Snapchat stories have become a tool to show off the great life we pretend to live. We want people to think that we’re having fun all the time, that we don’t have to worry – that we live the life they want to live.

But the truth is that no one actually lives the life they pretend to live. We hide behind a mask on social media because we’d love to believe that what we show other people of ourselves is who we really are, yet we know that we can only pretend to believe it, knowing deep down that it’s not true. Ironically, we still believe that other people do actually live the life they show us, waking our need to pretend we live an even better life.

Once we realize that social media is not a representation of our real lives, but only a dream world we pretend to live in, we’ll no longer feel the need to pretend living a perfect life, because such a thing as a perfect life does not exist.

We’re actors in our lives, pretendin’ to be who we want people to think we are. -Simone Elkeles

Invent yourself,CK