No rainbow without rain

Some days it feels as though life wanted to bring us off track, get us down and make us feel bad. Those are the days when nothing seems to work, when we feel bad for no apparent reason and start to believe that we’re not living the life we want. Those are also the days when we overthink decisions we took in our past and regret things we said and did. We feel lost and left alone even in the most crowded places.

While we suffer a lot during these days, I believe they are necessary and make us grow as people. Nowadays we avoid thinking about our lives, looking back on what we saw and went through. Lots of people are not ready to come to terms with their past. Why? Because they are afraid of what they will see when they look back.

While it takes effort and courage to relive our past, it can lead to the acceptance of our life and peace of our thoughts. Trust your body, it wouldn’t make you think about something that didn’t make you richer in terms of comprehension of yourself and other people.

The bad days I’ve been talking about are reminders making us realize that we can’t close our eyes before our own life. On these days you have to remind yourself that while you might be able to push the snooze button, reality will always outrun you on the long term. There’s no running away from yourself.

Suffering in general means learning to accept situations and growing stronger as human beings. But there are different kinds of suffering- there are people who refuse to accept that something hurt them and most often these people have to go through more pain than people who simply accept that they have to suffer. Every cloud has a silver lining and good times are just around the corner.

People who try to overlook unsolved problems do everything to protect themselves from pain by distracting themselves, not allowing their thoughts to flow. In times of social media and the permanent possibility to reach other people it has become really easy not to think about yourself. But from an objective point of view, it only leads to the pain nesting itself into your everyday life, hurting you as soon you lay down your protective shield made of distractions.

You’re human, bad days will always come and the way you cope with them might decide on your entire future. Don’t forbid your brain to think.

Invent yourself,CK

How long can you be in your car without your radio on? – Glenn Beck

Summer

Summer’s finally coming. Since this is basically the best time of the year, I hope you do everything to enjoy every moment of it. Summer is no time to worry, it’s all about realizing the plans you’ve had for months, about making memories that count.

Time’s too precious and too transient to waste it. Spend time with the people you love and let go of those who don’t make your days any better . Let go of all people that try to get you down. Stop chasing people’s attention. No one except yourself should be able to decide about how to feel and how you should live in general,.No one should be able to prevent you from being happy and enjoying your life.

This summer can be your summer. Make it the best time of your life. One last time you should remind yourself of the hard times you had to go through to get to this point, then let go of them. Even if you’re going through a difficult stage right now, remind yourself of all the promises you made yourself, that you would enjoy summer no matter what. Don’t get lost in worries and sadness. There are a lot of days you can fill with happiness until daily grind will take place again. Make your days count, profit from that time of the year when you don’t have to worry about school. You’re free to do whatever you wish for.

Take risks, don’t be afraid of being rejected, because you might miss out on something great. Sometimes “all or nothing” is the best slogan and summer is that time. It’s better to take risks and fail than not to take them at all. Get out of your comfort zone. That’s not where memories are made. They are created when you leave that zone and jump in at the deep end.

Positivity is key. Do something new, take risks, have fun, that’s all that matters.

Invent yourself,CK


The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters.         – Audrey Hepburn

Happiness

Do you ever feel like you’re missing out on something? Some days, life seems to be standing still while running past us at the same time. We’re waiting for that day when everything will turn out great and we’ll  be happy. But having waited for that moment myself for quite some time, I’ve realized that we’re responsible for our own happiness. If you want something, go get it, it’s not going to come to you.

I don’t want to be one of these people who regret not having put enough effort into what they wanted when they were young. We are still young, we’ve still got the chance to turn our life into the life we want. We have to chase it with all we’ve got or we’ll end up unhappy. Now’s the moment to get what we want.

As we’re getting older, there are more and more responsibilities coming towards us, obstacles we have to overcome, problems we have to solve. Yet these are not supposed to stop us, that’s the universe’s way of testing our faith in ourselves and dreams. Don’t wait until you’ve reached that point in your life where your biggest dreams have to make space for responsibilities. I’ve said it before and I’m saying it again: life happens now.

Life can be hard, with school keeping us busy everyday and homework following ( I know this sounds like a first world problem and it probably is, I am very aware of the luck we have to be educated in one of the richest countries in Europe,but it’s a human trait to never be satisfied with what we have.) as well as daily tasks to finish, we risk to forget that there is more to life than this. What is our life worth if we don’t chase happiness?

I do not accept that going to bed everyday thinking about having to stand up early or about responsibilities that have to be fulfilled is all there is to life. There’s got to be more. But without a little faith in ourselves and the courage to generate happiness ourselves we’ll end up surviving instead of actually living.  Happiness is somewhere within us and it’s our duty to find it.

Invent yourself, CK

Happiness depends upon ourselves. – Aristotle

The thing about society

Expensive coats, image and gossip. Welcome to Luxembourg city.

That’s all we care about isn’t it?  As long as we wear the clothes everyone else wears and behave the way they do, we don’t have to fear that people will start hating on us. We’re afraid of being left out and not be part of society.

You know what’s the outcome of trying to be the same as everyone else? We forget who we are. Our individuality, if not stimulated, is wiped out. We believe that being the way everybody else is or imitating the so-called ‘famous people’ will make us happy. But it won’t. Disillusion will be the outcome either way. Even if we  convince ourselves that imitation is the key to happiness, it’s not. Of course it is easier to be a part of the group, but eventually we will only be happy if we choose to be who we are, even if this means that we have to separate ourselves from the group.

This insecurity is the main reason for gossip. Talking behind people’s back is a really common thing in Luxembourg. We are so used to it that we have come to accept it,  we’ve become the prey of an addicting pastime. In the 5 last years, I’ve seen quite a few friendships and relationships being destroyed by rumors. The downside of living in such a small country is that everyone knows everyone and can tell you lots about them  without even knowing them personally.

We are so afraid of being different to the mass that we condemn everybody who differs from us. We don’t support individuality. Because this might mean that other people would follow, it’d become a trend and we’d have to change our attitude. We start rumors and do everything to make this person feel bad, to make them get back into their place, where they belong and do not attract more attention than we do.

Gossiping can often be an act of jealousy. You don’t like someone? Don’t talk about them. You shouldn’t worry about the life of someone who is not part of your life, should you? And gossiping about friends is just sad. Gossiping does not make you a better person.

I’m not saying that I’ve never talked behind people’s back and I’m not trying to put myself on top of anybody, I’m just trying to describe the way I have experienced our society so far. Some people are so desperate to be recognized but instead of doing something of any worth, they try to make themselves look better by pulling others down. But this can’t be the path to a healthy lifestyle. Be true to yourself and

Invent yourself, CK


 

The only time people dislike gossip is when you gossip about them – Will Rogers

 

To be or not to be

William Shakespeare, The Tragicall Historie of Hamlet

We are all trying to invent ourselves, to find out who we really are and be happy with who we are. Being an adolescent is a full-time job; as soon as you think that you’ve finally found out who you are, your brain feels bored and makes you reconsider your lifestyle.

You can never be sure about whether you’ll  stick to what you said or did. Your opinion changes as often as the hair color of any middle-aged woman, meaning  about every second week. (I would know,trust me)

The more convinced you are that you’ve finally found what makes you truly happy, the more likely it’s not. How often have you listened to a song of an until then unknown artist and thought that it would be your lifetime-song? I guess we all remember Donald Trump by Mac Miller. Haven’t heard this song since Rock-a-field 2012. My taste in music has since then changed at least 10 times,going from Dubstep to HipHop to Rap to the more commercial songs and back every 2 months.

But this is not necessarily a bad thing. Change is important and builds character. This is also why our surroundings do not stay the same. Where we tend to think that we did something wrong when looking back and realize we lost people we thought would stay a lifetime, we should accept the fact that we change; and so do other people.

A great percentage of our discomfort is based on other people, on so called friends we trust and think we can depend on as well as on people we consider enemies .I’m sure that most of you have had friends, whom you don’t even talk to anymore, whom you don’t even greet when you see them. But who’s to blame?  Is there even someone to blame or is it just part of growing up? We tend to forget that although we shouldn’t, we rely on other people. This is why our happiness as well as our sadness does not only depend on the way we think. I mean you can still try and be positive about everything that happens but from time to time, there is this abyss we fall in and think we can never get out of. And really often it’s linked to enemies, friends or lovers.

We’ll figure it all out, and we’ll find out who we really are. Trust the universe, it will work out.

This is why I’m starting this blog.  I’m gonna try to free myself by writing and I invite you to follow me on this journey.

 

Invent yourself, CK


 

This above all: to thine own self be true